In these days of coronavirus restrictions, there's been much talk of "social distancing." If we happen to be outside of our own homes - for example, because we're doing our supermarket shopping - we're supposed to stay at least two metres away from everyone else, so that we don't get close enough for the virus to be passed on to us. It makes sense with Covid-19, but this Easter week I've been reminded of a time when keeping at a distance was not a good thing, and actually had tragic consequences.
We've all heard the story of how the disciple Peter denied Jesus three times before the cock crowed. It would have happened yesterday - the Thursday before Easter - when Jesus had been arrested in the garden, and almost all his disciples had fled. To Peter's credit, he didn't completely run away like all the others, but we read in Luke 22: 54 that he followed at a distance. Did he keep his distance quite simply because he was afraid of what might happen to him ... or were there other reasons for his distance? Had he perhaps allowed a little distance to creep into his heart because of things that had happened just previously in the garden of Gethsemane?
You'll remember that Jesus took his disciples with him on that Thursday evening and asked them to watch and pray with Him. But each time He came back to them, He found them asleep. The events of that tumultuous week had completely exhausted them. Mark 14: 37 tells us that He said, "Simon, are you asleep? Couldn't you watch with me even one hour?"
Did Peter feel a little offended at being publicly reproached? After all, everyone had been asleep. Did Peter feel a little hurt and annoyed at being singled out and mentioned by name?
And that wasn't the only thing that had happened that evening. Shortly after the disciples' failure to stay awake for prayer, Judas had arrived with a contingent of Roman soldiers to arrest Jesus. Peter, perhaps still feeling the sting of his recent failure, rose to the challenge, drew a sword and slashed off the ear of one of the men in the group. (See John 18: 10) No doubt his heart's desire was to prove his allegiance to Jesus and to demonstrate that he was willing to defend Him in the face of danger.
But, rather than seeming impressed by Peter's display of loyalty, we read that Jesus turned around and reprimanded him for a second time that evening. "Put your sword away," He said. "Those who live by the sword will die by the sword. I'm not going to avoid the cup of suffering that the Father has prepared for me." (Matthew 26: 52, John 18: 11) And he reached out to heal the ear of the man that Peter had wounded.
Was Peter shocked? Confused? Disappointed? Hurt, offended, or embarrassed at what Jesus had said to him? What happens next, when they arrest Jesus and take him away, is that Peter follows, but now he follows "at a distance." Was he a little wounded, a little mistrustful, a little disappointed that Jesus seemed so weak? For whatever reason, he allowed some distance to creep in, and that set the scene for the denial and betrayal that followed shortly afterwards. The distance was the beginning of a more serious separation in relationship.
It's so easy for this to happen in our own lives. It can happen in our relationship with God - when perhaps we feel disappointed that a prayer seems unanswered or that things don't turn out the way we hoped that they would. We begin to feel angry or offended at God. It can also happen in our relationships with other people - when someone says or does something that hurts us or makes us feel belittled or offended. We begin to distance ourselves in our hearts from that person, and slowly we're setting the scene for more serious alienation, conflict or criticism. How important it is to deal with such things immediately, and not allow distance to separate us from God or from others.
As we enter this Easter weekend, who are you keeping your distance from? Whether you're holding back from God, or holding back from a family member, or a Christian brother or sister, this weekend offers us an opportunity to change that.
When Jesus sacrificed His own life on that Good Friday many centuries ago, He made it possible for us to be reconciled with the Father. Let's not miss the opportunity to use this sacred season for being reconciled with anyone we have "kept at a distance."